Age: 30 Flirty and Thriving
Relationship Status: Single and ready for summer
Occupation: Marketing Manager in Big Tech
Astrological Sign: Libra sun, Virgo Moon, Pisces rising
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?
Reach over and cuddle my doggo in bed! I know some people think dogs don’t belong in your bed, but this little morning moment brings me so much joy.
Have you ever felt genuine fulfillment? When?
I have felt it a few times in life, but most recently, I was lucky enough to feel it yesterday. I spent the whole day with friends who feel like family, and there’s something about being with friends like that – laughing at inside jokes, calling each other out in the kindest way possible, really seeing and appreciating each other – that is so damn fulfilling.
What is your most repetitive, negative thought?
I’m lazy / I’m not doing enough.
What is your most repetitive, positive thought?
I can do hard things because I’ve done them before.
What is one thing that surprised you about adulthood?
How made up it is.
What are three things you want to put every woman onto?
1. Having friends of different ages, not just your own age group
2. LinkedIn Premium subscription, especially if you’re a corporate girly
3. Sleep masks! I recently started using one, and it improved my sleep quality drastically overnight (haha, get it?)
Rank the following from most to least important:
money, food, sex, love, and laughter (feel free to explain or don’t).
Love, laughter, money, food, sex.
How has your relationship with your parents/ guardians changed in adulthood?
I am much more honest with my parents now about how they’ve fucked me up and how they trigger or hurt me. It was scary at first but this level of openness with each other has made room for deep, reciprocal, fulfilling relationships with both of my parents.
When do you feel most like yourself?
When I hit a PR at the gym. When I’m on an empty beach. When I’m walking in Manhattan and flash back to the moments I wanted more than anything to live in this city. When I’m cuddling my dog. When I love my outfit. When I’m having a good bangs day.
What is the best compliment someone has ever given you?
“You didn’t grow up in NYC? Really? You just seem like you did.”
How do you feel about falling in love?
I love doing it, and I’m hoping it happens for me again soon.
What is one thing you’re sick of hearing?
“If he wanted to he would.” There’s a bigger chasm between what people want and what they do than we realize. If a guy is treating you like shit, that’s all you need to know. He could really want to not treat you like shit, but right now he is, and you deserve better.
How often do you feel alone?
In the winter, probably every day or at least every week. Right now? Very rarely, and I’m so fucking blessed for that.
What is one thing you hope everyone experiences in their lifetime?
Having friends that feel like family.
What is one thing you hope no one has to experience in their lifetime?
Not knowing how you’re going to pay rent/buy groceries.
What is the best decision you’ve ever made?
This is tough because I genuinely believe every decision I’ve made has been the right one, because it’s led me to where I am right now. The short answer is moving back to NYC.
How often do you think about your body?
A lot more than I want to, but a lot less than I used to.
When do you ask for help?
When I need it, but I didn’t always even know when I needed it. I’m really proud of how much I ask for help now because I used to try and do everything myself. Now, as soon as I think that I could use a hand I ask for it.
What is something you feel strongly about?
I have a Scorpio Mars so I feel strongly about a lot of things, but I’ll share one. We spend too much time in our heads and not in our bodies. Lately I’ve noticed there’s a lot of emphasis on becoming more mentally and spiritually developed, when a lot of that work actually comes down to releasing emotions and personal history that’s living in our bodies: deep in our muscles, our organs, our joints and bones, and our skin. I feel very strongly that physical release (stretching, somatic exercises, yoga, massage) is just as important as mental processing (journaling, talk therapy, etc).
BONUS: Tell me something good. I am having the best fucking weekend :)
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