Age: 26
Relationship Status: Engaged
Occupation: Executive Assistant & Rover Pet Sitter
Income: $45,000
Astrological Sign: Cancer sun, Scorpio moon, and Pisces rising (life as a triple water sign, oh – what a blast!)
What is your first thought every morning?
My first thoughts every morning revolve around planning my work tasks and making sure I hit my 10k steps for the day. I also get excited about making my homemade iced matcha latte—it’s a little ritual that helps me to have something to look forward to in the mornings!
What is something you do solely for you?
It sounds odd, but I vlog for myself. I’ll vlog when I need to rant, a situation that happened at work, my next steps in my career, something exciting I am looking forward to, etc. Having a safe space to express my feelings has proven to be a valuable tool that significantly affects how I handle challenging situations and helps rewire my brain to be more hopeful and resilient about my future.
What is something you dread?
Getting older and seeing my loved ones and pets pass away right in front of my eyes, and thinking to myself, “How am I supposed to go through life without them now?”
What is something you are looking forward to?
Doing a boudoir photoshoot, getting married, and going to Japan for our honeymoon!
When do you feel most accomplished?
I feel a strong sense of accomplishment when I overcome significant challenges or obstacles. Whether it’s finding a solution to a complex problem or navigating a difficult situation, the ability to persevere and succeed gives me a great sense of pride!
What is something you regret investing in financially?
Going to a private university for my graduate program.
What is something you regret investing in emotionally?
I regret investing emotionally in friendships that didn’t truly nurture me, simply because of the history we shared. I held on to them for the sake of preserving the relationship, even though it wasn’t fulfilling.
What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?
(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)
Cats
Therapy
Walking Pad
When do you feel most creative?
I feel most creative during moments of relaxation, like when I’m unwinding in the evening or taking a break from a busy schedule. These times allow my mind to wander and explore new ideas without the pressure of deadlines.
How often do you compare yourself to others? When?
I tend to compare myself to others when I feel inadequate or dissatisfied with where I am in life. Lately, I've been experiencing a quarter-life crisis, which has led to more frequent comparisons.
What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?
Bravery stands out for me. As a first-generation professional and the eldest daughter, I’ve always aspired for more and actively sought opportunities to achieve my goals. In my early adulthood, I stepped outside my comfort zone and embraced a range of exciting experiences. I studied abroad, built valuable professional and personal connections, moved halfway across the country for graduate school, joined various clubs, pursued internships, jumpstarted a whole new career, and relocated to a new state. Despite my fears, I took these opportunities, and they taught me invaluable life lessons through the challenges and growth I encountered.
What is one thing you believe about your future self?
I am confident that I will consistently work diligently toward achieving my goals. Whenever I set my sights on something, I am committed to putting in the necessary effort, staying focused, and overcoming any obstacles that may arise. My determination and strong work ethic ensure that I will not only set clear objectives but also take the proactive steps required to reach them, no matter how challenging the journey might be.
What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?
As a child, I believed that pleasing everyone and avoiding conflict were the keys to being liked and accepted. I often put others' needs and opinions ahead of my own, fearing that standing up for myself or saying 'no' would lead to disappointment or rejection. This mindset led to a habit of suppressing my own desires and feelings, often at the expense of my own well-being.
As an adult, I’ve had to unlearn this behavior and recognize the importance of setting healthy boundaries. I’ve come to understand that it’s not only okay but necessary to prioritize my own needs and advocate for myself. I’ve learned that true relationships—whether personal or professional—are built on mutual respect and honesty, not on sacrificing my own happiness to keep the peace.
Have you ever felt pure joy? When?
I experienced pure joy when I began to eliminate aspects of my life that no longer resonated with me and established boundaries for myself. Over the past few years, I let go of long-standing friendships, set boundaries with my parents, concentrated on my hobbies and career aspirations, and deepened my spiritual connections. This process helped me discover my true self and clarify what I truly want from life. Adding into the mix, I adopted my first cat, Miss Periwinkle, who is my absolute beaming joy. She has added so much happiness to my life, and I’m amazed at how much her presence has helped relieve my stress.
What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?
I have a deep aversion to capitalism and the corporate system. Working for others feels draining, especially when we're putting in so much effort just to scrape by in this economy. As a neurodivergent woman, it feels even more difficult and frustrating, as if I’ll never escape this cycle of working for those who don’t respect neurodivergent individuals.
When do you feel most in your feminine energy?
Being surrounded by women that inspire and support me, wearing dresses and small gold hoop earrings, being in nature, wearing my favorite perfume (Versace Bright), and doing my self-care routines (massages, spa, manicures/pedicures).
What is one interaction that changed your life?
I left graduate school because I was burnt out dealing with hostile professors. At that time, I felt utterly lost and without a backup plan, questioning my worth and direction in life. Reconnecting with an old friend who had also left grad school in the same field was a turning point for me. It felt like a stroke of fate, as it marked the beginning of feeling less alone in my journey, finding the resilience to move forward, and finally focusing on my own happiness.
What is something you want to give up?
The need to always feel in control of everything (especially situations that are completely out of my control).
What is something you want to take up?
Learning archery, crocheting, baking, and being fluent in ASL.
What do you believe is a universal truth?
Your daily habits reflect the quality of life you will have.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I made a $600 donation to a charity dedicated to ending homelessness, which automatically entered me into a giveaway to win up to $60,000, which would be amazing. But even if I don't win, I'm confident that the Universe will bless me either way, regardless of the outcome!
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