Age: 27
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Marketing
Income: $80k
Astrological Sign: Aquarius
What is your first thought every morning?
What do I need to get done today, what time is it, and where’s my phone?
What is something you do solely for you?
I never let myself feel guilty about spending a little money to start a new hobby. I figure I won’t know how I love to spend my time if I don’t have a taste of everything.
What is something you dread?
This is so specific, but I get existential dread thinking about how everything is digital now and in the hands of corporations (for example, all my precious photos are stored on iCloud, or all my happiest memories are documented on my Instagram), and those things could go POOF at any moment (R.I.P. Vine). I pay $9.99 a month for 2TB of cloud storage, which is insanely expensive, and yet there’s probably something in the Terms & Conditions I signed about how if photos get lost or deleted, there’s nothing Apple can do about it. I really need to take the time to back up & organize all my photos on an external hard drive. I think about how I need to tackle that at least once a week.
What is something you are looking forward to?
I have nothing big on the horizon - which I’m actually happy about. I got married this year, and everything was building up to that, which was followed by a busy summer of other weddings and events. I’m ready to slow down and just be cozy.
When do you feel most accomplished?
When I check off tasks on my to-do list that I’ve been procrastinating.
What is something you regret investing in financially?
I’m glad I went to college, but I really wish I had gotten a degree in business. I think I was so worried about grades in college that I chose an easy degree instead of going for something that challenged me & would be applicable to many different career paths.
What is something you regret investing in emotionally?
Anything related to my job. Marketers love to say, “we’re not saving lives,” honestly, it’s cliche, but I tell myself that any time I start to get emotional about work, it grounds me. (People who are saving lives, I see you). My job is simply not that deep and will never be that deep. I’ve gotten better about not taking work home with me as I’ve gotten older.
What are three things you think are absolutely worth the investment?
(financially, emotionally, or time/energy-wise)
Trips / travel
Therapy
Regular decluttering. This task will never go away, but it’s worth it to give me a clear mind: Unsubscribe from marketing emails. Recycle mail that doesn’t require a follow-up. Go paperless for your bills & set up autopay. Review your subscriptions and stop paying for things you don’t use. Clean out your fridge & pantry of expired items. Get rid of items that you don’t need. Keep a few sentimental items that you really, really care about, and get rid of the rest.
When do you feel most creative?
When I’m taking film photos. I loooooove film. It looks so alive.
How often do you compare yourself to others? When?
Oh girl, when am I not comparing myself to others? Lately, I’ve been very money-focused because we want kids, but my husband and I don’t feel financially ready to have kids. So, I’m doing a lot of looking around like, so & so had kids, how much money do they make? How do they afford daycare? - That kind of stuff.
What is one thing you’d like to thank your past self for?
I want to thank my past self for staying in school while my dad was dying. That was the hardest year of my life, balancing grief with college. His sickness moved really fast, and honestly, when he was diagnosed, he was kind of already gone in a way (I won’t get into the dirty details). They told us there was no chance of recovery; all we got was a moving timeline of how much longer he had to live. I visited my dad often, and he was in hospice, so he had full-time care. But I felt really guilty at the time, like I should be there helping take care of him in his final days. I’m grateful to my sister, who took on that burden so he still had family around him. My family encouraged me to do what I felt was best for me - to stay in school.
What is one thing you believe about your future self?
I believe I will be a good mom.
What is one thing you learned in childhood that you have now had to unlearn in adulthood?
I did a lot of understanding my privilege in my early 20s - specifically financial privilege.
Have you ever felt pure joy? When?
Our wedding day happies were insane! I think we need to normalize more events where you can gather all your favorite people under one roof for an evening.
What is something that would feel really good to get off your chest?
I know I want to have a family and will have kids if I’m lucky, but I’m really scared of how it will change my life. I just want to soak in all these moments where I get to be totally selfish.
When do you feel most in your feminine energy?
When I’m all dolled up for an event like a wedding or a party, I feel like I carry myself more confidently, my posture’s a little better, and I’m more open to connection.
What is one interaction that changed your life?
Based on my reading level at the time, I was given the option to skip Kindergarten and go straight into first grade. My parents gave me a choice but definitely encouraged it, and I don’t remember really having reasoning skills at that age, so I just went with it. I always think back to how different my life would be had that one decision not been made! I wouldn’t have met any of my current best friends (who I’ve known since 6th grade). I wouldn’t have met my husband, because we met in the college dorms. It’s so weird!
What is something you want to give up?
I would really love to lower my caffeine intake - I usually sit around 200 mg per day, which is probably not ideal.
What is something you want to take up?
I want to get into gardening! My front lawn would really appreciate me having that hobby.
What do you believe is a universal truth?
Humans will never experience reality objectively.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
My best friend just got a job that she really, really wanted.
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