Age: 29
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Registered Nurse
Income: $130k
Astrological Sign: Gemini sun, Cancer moon, Libra rising
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
I never really felt that I had an important part of a daily routine. But as of late, I’ve been waking up 10-15 minutes earlier than I normally do and making a hot latte to have while I get ready. It sounds like such a basic bitch answer, but it's helped me not doom scroll as much and make me not be so crotchety.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
The weather. We’ve had unseasonably warm weather where I live, and as summer’s # 1 fan, I’m loving it. Seasonal depression girlies know the feeling.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
External reassurance. I feel that I am always unsure of myself and thrive on positive feedback and reinforcement. Yes, I did just start therapy again.
When do you question yourself?
I think the better question is, when don’t I question myself? That answer is simple: at work. I am very confident in my career and in my skills and knowledge.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Going back to grad school. It is a challenge, of course, and I question the decisions sometimes, but it's really shown me that I am smarter than I ever gave myself credit for. It helped me realize, “Damn, I am a good nurse,” and that means something.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
Getting myself into credit card debt. I still hate myself for it sometimes, but I’ve forgiven myself for it. Mainly because I’m almost through it but also because I’m still figuring it all out, and there is not much I can do about it.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
I will always forgive you for canceling plans. Everyone, including myself, is so busy, schedules are packed, and work is nuts. I don’t see it as a reflection of our friendship or relationship, and I will never judge you for it. Sometimes you’re just having an absolute shit day and need time to rot.
How do you ground/center yourself?
In the summer, I go to the beach. Otherwise, I call my mom. She’s the best reality check sometimes.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Reminding myself that the day will always end.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
When I’m out with my closest friends, drinking a well vodka soda at a shitty Irish dive bar. It's probably the worst version of myself, honestly, but I feel the most like me in those moments.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
The notion that one person has to be 100% right and one person has to be 100% wrong in relationships. Of course, when someone steals your money and leaves you on the side of the road, that person is wrong. I’m talking about the majority of interpersonal relationships. Rarely is one person right or wrong, and I think it would save us all a lot of frustration if we realized that and gave some grace.
What is something you know for sure?
Honestly, I don’t think I know anything for sure. Things I always thought were “for sure,” I find myself questioning. As I said, the only thing I know for sure is that the day will always end.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
Shared sense of humor
Honesty
Enjoying the nothingness
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I’m with my two best friends. I know that there is absolutely nothing I can say or do with them that would change anything. I can be my most authentic self with them and share things that I might not be able to share with anyone else.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
When I think about my mom, I am in awe of her. Her husband died in a tragic accident in her home when she was 30 years old with a 4-month-old baby (my half-sister). She worked full-time, got remarried, had me, and still lives in the same house. The thought of having to endure that is crazy to me.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
Superficial, but my parents gave me diamond earrings for my birthday. I had just told my mom how I wanted to start investing in jewelry for myself, so it was a pleasant surprise.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
Nothing specific, but I wish I had said yes in general to more things and had taken more chances. I was/am an anxious person, and I think it held me back from saying yes to more things. Hindsight is 20/20.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Fireball shots.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
I like to think that I am a really good listener and that I’m honest. I listen, but I also hear you. If you ask me for advice on something, I will always hear you out and see both sides of a situation.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I don’t know! I just want to feel satisfied. I don’t want to feel that there was something I missed.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I just registered for my last semester of grad school. Hard to imagine when I started that I’d be finished already.
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