Age: 30
Relationship Status: Single
Occupation: Accounting & HR Assistant
Income: $48k
Astrological Sign: Aquarius
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Every evening before I go to bed, I prep my coffee for the next morning so it’s ready to go when I wake up. Even though I’m a morning person, having this small thing ready so I can sit and enjoy it for a while before going to work is wonderful.
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
I think it’s dependent on how I find fulfillment in my life. I often get down about being single and without a family of my own, and sometimes, it can be so easy to dwell on that. I feel happy when I think about my few close friends, my job, or a quiet afternoon spent on the lake in my kayak.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
My parents’ money. They bought a house a number of years ago that my previous roommate and I moved into because rental units/agencies in my city are trash. The only reason I can afford to now live by myself after my roommate moved out & got married is because my parents aren’t in it to make money; they just need the expenses/mortgage covered, and it's just to help me have an affordable place to live because it’s impossible to save for a mortgage as a single woman in this economy. They also help me pay for my glasses when I need them because my insurance doesn’t cover it all. I feel so extremely lucky that they can help where I need it, and I’m so grateful, but I don’t like feeling like I can’t do it without them.
When do you question yourself?
Anytime I have to have a “confrontation” kind of talk (whether it’s from me initiating it or someone else, though let’s be honest…I don’t initiate these types of conversations easily).
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
Setting boundaries in what kinds of conversations I have around my body/food/weight/weight loss or gain. Knowing deep down that I was created for a purpose, no matter what my physical appearance may be.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
How I left a friendship when I was a teenager.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life, and when I was a child, my parents used to pay me money to lose weight. They’d put me on cleanses, diets, fasts, take me to naturopathic doctors, anything to try and “fix” me. I found my voice growing up and learned how to stand up for myself to them, and in my adult years, I unpacked and processed the trauma that that was. I can say now that I have forgiven them for it, and I know I have, but many days, the hurt creeps in again, and I feel stuck. So, I have forgiven them, but it is also a continual choice to forgive. This history also makes the whole “relying on their money” that much harder to accept.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Prayer. Going for a walk. Having my music on in my house loud enough that I can feel it in my chest.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time? Counselling.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
When I’m traveling alone. I feel free, confident, excited, and at peace.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
That country music is good. Get that twang away from me.
What is something you know for sure?
That I am valued and have worth.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
This feels really hard to answer because I have never been in a romantic relationship, and it scares me to think I might never be. But if I were fortunate enough to experience it one day, non-negotiables would be:
Communication.
Respectful independence.
A personal faith/belief in God that was prevalent in their daily life.
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I’m swimming. I have a few really cute bathing suits, and I love being in the water and feeling the movement of the water.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
1. Standing at the crater of a volcano and at the base of a waterfall in Costa Rica.
2. Watching the sunrise over the Atlantic Ocean while flying home from Zambia.
3. Staring up at the night sky in my lawn chair outside my back door, watching the stars.
4. Watching/listening to my friends talk about their businesses with others and how they got to where they are now. Their stories and passion are so inspiring.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
A homemade journal as a goodbye gift before I went on a trip to Europe for a few months, and a set of gorgeous black clay dinner & dessert plates made by a local artisan.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
I try to live without regrets, and looking back I can’t recall any missed “yes’s”.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Any situation that robs me of my peace and joy and makes me question my sanity.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My smile. And I’m really good in the kitchen.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be content.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I recently celebrated one year at my current job after leaving my previous toxic job of 10 years. I’m [mostly] happier than ever, and I no longer suffer from anxiety-ridden insomnia. I have free time to have a life and make plans, and I still pinch myself in disbelief that this is my life now. I’m so thankful.
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