Age: 34
Relationship Status: In the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had <3
Occupation: Photographer
Income: $80,000
Astrological Sign: Cancer
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
How I start my morning. If I do not follow my morning routine, I feel like the day is thrown off. I wake up, go outside in the sun, go to the gym, eat breakfast, and then the day “starts.”
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
My relationships with friends and family. Human connection is so important to me; solid relationships just light up my life.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
Honestly, myself. I don’t really let people “help me” or do things for me. I will go out of my way, at my inconvenience, to show up for you, but I will not give you the opportunity to show up for me unless I absolutely cannot do something myself, and then I feel guilty that I let you help me.
When do you question yourself?
When I am new at something. I am a confident person, but I just started this new career in photography, and I have noticed that imposter syndrome and self-doubt are creeping in! My go-to remedy is to “attack” it- with practice, knowledge, and immersing myself in it.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
I took a year off to travel the world by myself. Every day, I experienced little travel hurdles like language barriers, getting lost, transportation mishaps, and putting myself out there socially. Each time I passed the hurdle, I would pat myself on the back and say, “You go, girl.”
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
Growing up, I used to think being strong meant being mean. Bulldozing your way through to get what you want. I’m sure I’m the villain in some people’s stories, and I have made amends with the ones who talked to me about it. I have also made amends with myself.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
My boyfriend, for watching the last episode of House of the Dragon without me.
How do you ground/center yourself?
I meditate and give myself a time limit to ruminate on something. I tend to go down rabbit holes, and telling my mind, “I’m going to put this down now,” helps me step away from the issue.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Having a really, really great therapist.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
I worked with a dietician regarding my chronic fatigue, and it was a night and day difference. I remember thinking to myself, “This is what it’s like to have energy.” I felt healed.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
Priggish people. To me, your race, religion, beliefs, and actions do not warrant self-righteousness.
What is something you know for sure?
That life has been incredibly kind to me.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
You must not want children.
You must be self-aware.
Your methods of communication are healthy.
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I am at the gym; I get a chance to look at my body and watch my body move with me. I get to see how strong I am getting and look at all that my body is capable of. It’s therapeutic. I am spending time with my body and, in turn, knowing my body better and loving it more.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
My boyfriend. He’s lived such a full life that he absolutely loves. I want everyone to be as passionate about their life as he is.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
In my last job, the stocks in my company bought me financial freedom. That gift has changed my life.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
Weaponizing my looks. There, I said it. I wish I used more of my youth to my advantage. Men offered me opportunities that I turned down because they just wanted to “get in my pants.” So freaking what? Who cares? I’ve let men “in my pants” with nothing to gain. Those opportunities could have gotten me farther in life, but I said no.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
Having children. When I was a child myself, I always told people, “I don’t want kids.” That feeling has never wavered.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My authenticity. I can’t be anyone but me.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
Me, but better. That means more traveling, less worrying, staying healthy, and loving freely.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
I’m visiting my best friends in Miami next week! I am so excited.
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