Age: 31
Relationship Status: Married
Occupation: Confidential Administrative Officer
Income: $67,000
Astrological Sign: Gemini
What is the most important part of your daily routine?
Having a cup of coffee or tea in the morning. Whether it be iced or hot coffee, black or green tea, I enjoy the routine of a morning drink. I just had gum surgery, so I can’t have hot drinks for 2 weeks! Help!
What is your current happiness most dependent on?
My sons’ happiness. They’re little right now. 2 & 5. I want them to be happy and have wonderful memories to grow up with. I have this crazy fear that when they become adults, they will want to be with their significant other's family more than me and my husband. I want them to truly enjoy our company. I torture myself sometimes with those thoughts—boy mom problems.
What do you wish you were less reliant on?
Years ago, I started to become very anxious when driving or thinking about having to drive somewhere. It started out of the blue. I only drive when I have to, so I rely on my husband to run many of our errands. I wish I could take the leap and take that off his plate more often.
When do you question yourself?
I can question anything and everything. Not excessively. The Gemini in me can see all points of view. In my opinion, that’s why Geminis are seen as “two-faced” or “flip-floppy”. It’s hard to take a side or make a decision because I can see it in different ways. Running my thoughts and ideas by my husband or girlfriends makes the questioning easier to deal with.
What is something that has positively impacted how you perceive your self-worth?
When my parents tell me how proud they are of me.
What is something you have forgiven yourself for?
Not speaking up more in school and around my peers as a child/teenager. I kept a lot of thoughts inside during those years. I had many friends, but sometimes I wouldn’t say what I really wanted to say.
What is something you have forgiven someone else for?
Nothing comes to mind. I have a close, loving family. We are all there for each other no matter what. And I’ve had the same group of girlfriends since I was a kid. I believe that you are the company you keep. I think I’ve kept some really good company.
How do you ground/center yourself?
Looking at pictures. I love scrolling through my pictures when I don’t feel like myself. I go down memory lane and remember all the wonderful memories I’ve made, even when a specific event didn’t feel so wonderful at the time. It grounds me and makes me more appreciative of all the amazing things/people I have in my life.
What is one thing that helped you through your most difficult time?
Family/best friends. I lost both my grandfathers this year, 6 weeks apart. It has been an emotional whirlwind, especially for my parents. Being around my family and friends has helped ease the sadness I’ve felt with losing them both so suddenly and close together.
Have you ever felt like the best version of yourself? When?
When I’ve consistently exercised, I haven’t been able to get back to that consistency since I had my second son two years ago. I don’t want to lose weight, but I want to keep up with my body. Yoga has always been my favorite workout. One of my goals is to start practicing yoga in the morning before my kids wake up.
What is something you fundamentally disagree with?
Negativity.
What is something you know for sure?
The days are long, but the years are short. Seeing my kids grow is such a bittersweet feeling. I can’t wait for them to grow into the people they will become. But knowing I’m not going to have any more kids makes me miss their baby selves more than ever.
What are three of your non-negotiables in romantic relationships?
1. Humor
2. Compromise
3. Dependability
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin?
When I have a nice outfit on and am out with my girlfriends, it can be either a wine night or dinner & drinks night. Those nights make me feel normal again. It’s easy to get stuck in the daily routine with a house and kids. When we get our girl's nights, it feels like all is right in the world.
Have you ever been in awe of something/someone? When?
Definitely my kids. I am in awe of them almost every day.
What is the best (physical/material) gift you have ever received?
My engagement ring is probably the best physical item I’ve ever received. We were young at the time and only lived together for a few months, so it was a total surprise. The diamond belonged to my grandmother. There’s sentimental value there, and the surprise aspect makes it even better. I’m not easily surprised.
What is one thing you wish you had said ‘yes’ to in the past?
· I wish I would have said yes to more experiences in my 20s. However, I truly believe everything has worked out how it should have.
· More time with my grandparents.
What is one thing you will always say ‘no’ to in the future?
DRUGS.
What do you believe is your most attractive quality?
My understanding. Even if I don’t agree with you, I can understand where you’re coming from.
What/who do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be the most confident version of myself. Right now, most of my life revolves around my kids. I second-guess myself more than I should. I know I will get to a point in my life where I can focus more on my self-care and hobbies/interests.
BONUS: Tell me something good.
Happiness is a mood, not a destination. It’s okay if you don’t feel happy today. Enjoy the journey.
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